The Hot Girl Series: Redefining Confidence in 2024.
What does it really mean to be ‘hot’ in 2024? Spoiler alert: it’s not about looks. It’s about a deep, unbreakable level of internal confidence that radiates outward, transforming the way you experience life.
Welcome to Part 1 of the Hot Girl Series, where we’re shifting the narrative of what it means to be truly confident and magnetic. Hint - it relies on nothing external to you. When you cultivate this kind of confidence, everything else starts falling into place. Your energy becomes irresistible, and you naturally attract the most beautiful people and experiences.
Let’s dive into the first crucial step: building unshakable confidence from within.
Why Society Doesn’t Want Us to Be Confident
If you’ve ever struggled with maintaining confidence, you’re not alone. Society often conditions women to shrink, play small, or prioritise others’ needs over their own. We’re subtly (or not so subtly) told that being overly confident or assertive isn’t “ladylike.” This creates an invisible barrier, making it feel like an uphill battle to stay empowered.
But here’s the truth: confidence is your birthright. Once you break free from the societal conditioning that tells you to be anything less than fully yourself, you’ll step into your most authentic, powerful self. You’ll stop seeking validation from others and start creating your own.
Good Girl Conditioning is Keeping You Small
We’ve all experienced good girl conditioning—that nagging voice inside telling us to be “good,” polite, agreeable, and perfect. We’re taught that approval comes from making everyone else comfortable, often at the expense of our own needs and desires.
But here’s the problem: good girl conditioning keeps you small. It prevents you from fully expressing yourself, from owning your space, and from chasing your desires unapologetically. The key to breaking free is realizing that your worth isn’t tied to being perfect or playing by society’s rules.
When you let go of perfection and embrace the messy, real, and authentic parts of you, that’s when your true confidence shines. Continue striving towards being a better human, however, be kind to yourself in the growing journey. Being ‘hot’ isn’t about perfection. It’s about owning your power.
How to Start Believing in Yourself More
Confidence isn’t something you wake up with—it’s a skill that’s cultivated. Self-belief is at the core of that confidence. If you’ve spent years waiting for others to affirm your worth or waiting for “the right moment” to step into your power, it’s time to change the narrative.
Here are a few ways to start believing in yourself today:
Stop comparing yourself to others. Comparison drains your confidence. Focus on your own journey and growth.
Celebrate your wins. No matter how small, acknowledging your achievements reinforces your ability to succeed.
Challenge self-doubt. Whenever a negative thought pops up, ask yourself if it’s really true. More often than not, it’s just fear talking. You are not your thoughts.
Embrace the Fullest Expression of YOU
The hottest version of you is the one who embraces authenticity over perfection. It’s easy to get caught up in the idea that we need to be flawless to be valued or loved. But perfection is exhausting, and it’s also an illusion. Real confidence comes from being unapologetically yourself, flaws and all.
When you stop hiding parts of yourself in an effort to appear “perfect,” you’ll feel lighter, freer, and more aligned with who you truly are. Confidence is about embracing your wholeness—not hiding it.
Create Your Mind & Body as a Safe Space
Confidence isn’t just mental—it’s emotional, physical, and spiritual. One of the most powerful things you can do is to create your mind and body as a safe, loving space for yourself. When the world around you feels chaotic or overwhelming, your internal world should be a sanctuary.
Here’s how to start:
Practice self-compassion. Speak to yourself with kindness, especially when things don’t go as planned.
Tune into your body. Move in ways that make you feel strong, grounded, and connected.
Set boundaries. Protect your energy by setting clear boundaries with others and honouring your own needs.
When your mind and body become places of peace, you’re no longer dependent on external circumstances for your confidence. You carry your own home within you.
Ready to elevate your confidence? Here’s how we can work together:
✨ 1:1 Mentorship – Let’s dive deep and transform your confidence from the inside out. Find out more about working 1:1 with me here
✨ Free Confidence & Composure Playbook – Get my free guide that helps you build composure and confidence, no matter what life throws your way. Download it here
✨ Online Elevation Rituals – Strengthen your confidence with my exclusive online rituals designed to elevate your energy and mindset. Explore them here